If you have a loved one with a substance abuse problem, you want them to get help. However, in most cases, you can't force them to get the help that they need. They have to want help. If you've hit a dead end and feel hopeless, you need to take a step back. It might take your loved one a while to admit that they have a problem, Luckily, there are some steps you can take that will help you and your loved one through the process.
If your loved one is battling an addiction, they're battling a powerful demon. They might not know it, but they're going to need your help if they're going to win the battle. Unfortunately, you can't help your loved one beat their addiction if you don't completely understand the problem. To help your loved one beat their addiction, you need to educate yourself about the problems they're facing. If your loved one won't enter treatment, find support groups for yourself. Talk to substance abuse counselors in your area. They can help you understand the struggles that your loved one is facing. The more informed you become, the better prepared you'll be to help your loved one when they're ready to ask for help.
If your loved one is using their addiction to cross boundaries that you find unacceptable, you have to be willing to follow through with the consequences. It can be easy to allow unacceptable behavior because you're afraid of hurting your loved one or of sending them into a tailspin. Unfortunately, allowing them to break rules and cross boundaries, only creates a situation where they feel free to continue with their actions and you feel helpless.
To help your loved one overcome addiction, you have to be willing to set boundaries, and follow through with consequences. Sit down with your loved one and let them know exactly what you will not accept, and then set a consequence for overstepping those boundaries. For instance, if you set the rule that your loved one is not allowed to be in your home while they're under the influence, you have to be willing to make them leave if they break that rule.
If your loved one suffers from substance abuse, you don't have to feel helpless. The information provided here will help take care of yourself and your loved one. For more information about substance abuse, be sure to reach out to a substance abuse treatment facility near you.